For wedding, in lieu of flowers, we made donations, the guests are so upset that they won't speak to us?

My husband and I love our cat dearly as everyone who attended our wedding knows ... so instead of favors we put cards on the table saying in lieu of flowers, we have put money aside in your name to have our cat cloned.



Most guests were in an uproar at the wedding, but I thought it would pass and they would get over it.



I think they may be upset because they have a pretty good idea that we are going to put the money from the wedding towards cloning our cat.



But it is our money, and we should be able to do what we want with it, right? I'm really hurt that most people won't even talk to us!



What is your opinon? I think it's quite debatable.

For wedding, in lieu of flowers, we made donations, the guests are so upset that they won't speak to us?
Are you serious? You want to clone your cat?
Reply:Debatable? Yes. Defensible? No.



If you truly want to get your cat cloned, perhaps you should have put this idea on your bridal registry. In that way, those who wanted to help with this plan could have. But then of course your gift total may have gone down.



Since it was their money and should be able to do what they want with it, how would you have felt if you received no gifts, but a card saying they spent the money on neutering their dogs?



Lets hope your guests forgive you. But be assured, your wedding will be talked about for years.
Reply:I disagree that inliu of their goody bags you bought something for yourself. The favors are for the guest,cloning your cat isnt a treat for them. You couldve stated in the invitation,"in lieu of buying US(the couple) flowers or gifts we'd like you to donate towrds our cat".
Reply:I have to agree with the guests on this one. First, not everyone agrees on cloning. Second, party favors are for the guests...a little thank you for sharing the day with you. Many guests like to keep those as keepsakes. The guests have already given you probably a shower gift and a wedding gift, where is their token of appriciation?



On the other side of things, I think it is somewhat inmature of your guests to not talk to you anymore...try talking to them. Maybe there is something deeper than the favor thing.



Many ppl get money as gifts for wedding, you should have just used that to get your cat cloned. Or, in the wedding invitations, you could have put some type of note stating that in lue of gifts, they could donate money for your cat cloning.
Reply:I don't think the people are upset that they didn't get to take something home. I think the fact that you are putting THEIR name on money to clone your cat is the problem. Most people believe, and rightly so, that cloning is unacceptable ethically and morally. Of course they wont be happy to be affiliated with such a thing! If you want to spend your money to clone your cat, that's your stupidity. But don't involve your so-called friends and family without their consent.
Reply:Cloning is a major issue and there are people on both sides of the fence about it. I think it's quite audacious to say, "Hi! We took money from the wedding and are having our cat cloned!" That's something that is more of a private and personal affair. Not something that should be publicly displayed on your guest's tables at dinner.



Moreover, you're guests likely paid quite a few hundred dollars to come to your wedding. Between transportation, clothing, and a gift for you (potentially even a shower gift), they were expecting certain things. Flowers on the table were one of them. It's like saying, "We don't have money to have our cat cloned and purchase flowers for the wedding. We've decided to spend it on the cat and not you. Sorry. Tough cookies." It is giving yourself a gift... after they've already given you something! It's selfish and porr etiquette.



I can see why your guests are upset. You an do charitable donations in lieu of guest FAVORS, and even then you need to be mindful of the charity to which you are giving and how guests will react. Many are OK with donation to charitable organizations as long as they do not take a political or social stance. For example, giving to an abortion clinic or PETA probably isn't a wise decision as you're going to step of toes and upset others.



Truly, I am surprised if you actually went through with this and this isn't a troll posting. I think you should have had enough going on upstairs to know the expectations your guests would have.
Reply:Nothing you said is "debatable". What you did was sick.
Reply:a wedding favor is normally for a guest. not for you. they bring gifts for you and attend your wedding and normally they get something to take home to remember the day. i think that was kind of strange and they were probably angry because thats a little selfish of you.....why would you even think to clone your cat?
Reply:They probably wouldn't have been upset if you gave the money to a cat shelter, but usinf the $$ to clone your cat is just selfish. Only the two of you will benefit.
Reply:Man, I stuck up for you in the other thread. Now I feel duped.



Yes it was a bad idea. No matter what your feelings were, you should have also taken into account your guests feelings. CLoning is a truely controversial subject, and I can guarantee you that most people wouldnt want money donated to any cause in their name in which they dont agree.



But the deed is done, you will now have to pay the price of your actions. What I dont understand is why you are so upsate over this, you didnt put your guests feelings first why in the world would they even consider your feelings on the "love" for you cat.



This is completely your fault. Lie in the bed you have made and deal with it.
Reply:Cloning your cat?! Are you serious, are you joking...you must be joking. sounds kinda wacky to me, but that's my personal opinion. I know you love your original cat. But there would be something different about it if you cloned it...it wouldn't be your cat. Doesn't sound quite right to me.



I don't know about you, but when I give a wedding gift to a new couple, I except the wedding favor as something I can actually bring home and keep. The wedding favor is for the guests not you to clone your cat. So I can understand why your guests are pissed. Do all your guest support cloning? I wouldn't want a card that says a donation has been in my name to clone my beloved cat...
Reply:That is stupid I would be upset too. First of all, no one is legally cloning pets and you will never have your cat cloned. If you made a donation in your guest's names towards a REAL charity then that would have been good. Like for instance since you love your cat you should have donated to the local aspca or animal shelter or something animal related. But putting money in a FAKE fund is stupid and just plain RUDE.
Reply:Asking for money to clone your cat is a insult to your guests, and that is why they are mad.
Reply:I'm not sure if you are serious or not, but others seem to think you are. I am not aware of any pet cloning programs right now, so this is why I have my suspicions. That being said...



As other people stated, party favors are for the guests. Some may have been upset because they believe cloning is wrong; that you are playing God. So this may have personally upset some of your guests.



You should have saved the money for any children you might have, because they need to go to college. I hope you have some, and shake this silly infatuation with your cat. The education and well being of any future children should take priority over your cat! Have the cat freeze dried when it dies, so it looks just like it is sleeping. This can be done, and it is a real service. You could keep cloning your cat forever, but you will never keep it's personality. Good luck!
Reply:I think you guys showed some real disrespect to your guests. Many of them may be uncomfortable with teh idea of cloning. You made it clear that you weren't interested in their opinions on the subject and that you just wanted money from them.